Well, if you think or talk about Love, everyone has their own definition of love. But can you really define love? Actually, you can just feel it but can't see it like air. And to me, Love is a selfless, pure, intense deep emotional connection, a union of two souls and hearts with a life long commitment and it's destined. I strongly believe that You don't find love but Love finds you. You change and grow so much with it, when it happens in your life. You just don't know when it touches you and your life. Two souls walk together and grow together in life.
This is a story of a friend of mine, who is a singer based out of Gujarat. He has a background of music and does live concerts. I, being an Artist at heart, and singer too felt an artistic musical connection with him very soon. Every Sunday became a ritual of singing together on call with him and I just loved this feeling of getting lost in music and singing with him forgetting this world of tensions. Artists have their own beautiful lovely world too . I am sure, my artistic readers can very well relate with me here. I used to forget all my tensions, everything and used to just get lost in a different peaceful musical world. I remembered my childhood days, when in school days, I used to go to learn music from my Guruji after my school used to get over.
We became nice friends soon because of this beautiful musical connection. Though he is very young to me in age but he has been a very nice pure person at heart and he had his own struggles and challenges of his life. But I want to share his love story today with you all, which is very different and unusual, which actually shows that when real love happens, it really happens and it doesn't see anything -age, caste, or anything. And it evolves you so much that it makes you a much better person.
He was only 24 years young, when I got connected with him and we have never met though yet. And as his age, he has been quite immature and always used to take suggestions from me as his guide, as I am elder to him. He is from a very conservative family background and always believed that he would marry a simple girl by the choice of his family. Well, we have been friends for about 4 years now and here??..,
One day, he told me , " Hey Shalini, I am in love!! " I said, Really? That's nice to know!!" Then I laughed for a while and asked him ," Do you really know what love is? I hope it's not your today's generation love, which comes and goes soon and which is actually not love at all.
Then he said, " No, No, it's your type of love - that intense deep lifetime commitment, lifetime heart and soul connection wala love!!" I was like... OK!!. Nice!! I smiled for a while and I wanted to know more about it.
And actually this time, his voice had more depth, a little more evolved and a little more mature. He didn't sound like that immature boy who used to be infatuated so easily. And then I asked, " So, Who 's the girl? "And he said, " You will be surprised to know. " I said, " I am already surprised, so pls tell me now. "
My friend - She is 10 years elder to me, separated with a child which does not matter to me at all and I love her with all my heart. I just can't imagine my life without her!!
Me - Hold on!! Let me take a deep breath and digest what you are saying. Are you really sure about this feeling?
My friend - Yes, very sure!!
Me - Do you even realize the challenges? Have you even thought about it? You might be immature and confused about your feelings but that girl must have gone through a lot and she might get hurt. Also, the age gap between you two is quite a concern. She will grow old faster than you. And the maturity levels of both of you will be different. Do you see spending your whole life with her? Do you see yourself growing old with her till last breath? Marrying her, being with her till last breath? And what about your conservative family? I had all these questions for him. Do you have answers to all these questions? Have you asked yourself? It's something serious and responsible OK, my dear friend!!
My friend - Yes, I do! I really love her so much!! I accept her the way she is and with all she has, even with her child... Will be mine too.
Well, I wanted to see if he is only talking or he is really serious about it and has grown and evolved that much. That's what Love really does to you!! Hmmmmm........ Well, yes!!
Though, I trusted him as a person that he will never hurt anyone but I was not able to trust his immature age.
It has been 2 years now, and he is still in love with her. They are happy together. Though he had always come to me for suggestions and guidance, their relationship had really gone through lot of challenges as I already knew and had gauged. There was a time when he was really insecure about her and they had a lot of differences in understanding each other. I have really seen him transforming from an immature boy to a mature evolved man. And that's what true love does to you!! And also, loving an elder person does to you.
It's a very rare ,real , unconventional and unusual love story. I am happy for them. I hope to see them happily married soon with all my best wishes. Though, I have personally always felt and believed that age gap in a relationship or Love is not good, specially in today's times But I think real love does not see any boundaries or gaps. It just feels the connection from heart and soul which is destined.. I always used to wonder if movies like "Dil toh Paagal hai "or " Wake up Sid " (showing age gap love) can be real but seeing this love story, it seems it can be real . Love really conquers all if it's real!! .
What do you think? Really? Does Age gap matter in Love? Can it be long lasting?
Let me know your opinion in comments box pls. Also, share any of your love stories like this, I would love to read.
Lots of love and my best wishes!!
Stay safe, stay blessed and stay happy always!!
Keep smiling !!
Happy Reading!!
Shalini
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