Is suicide the only solution to all our problems? Is ending life, the only solution?

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Well, what we really see these days often, is that a lot of people around us committing suicide, specially youth. Recently, an uncle staying close to my home in our apartment, tried to commit suicide 3 times, when finally, 3rd time, he could make it. And the suicide note, he had left behind, mentioned that he could not bear the pain of his mother who left him some years back. He had his wife and kids too though, but still he decided to quit one day and leave this world.

Sometime back, a young IAS student had committed suicide because he got late for his exam and was not allowed to give the exam for which he had prepared the whole year. He was only 10 mins late because of the severe traffic and he requested the examiner a lot but all in vain. Thereafter, he locked himself in his room and decided to commit suicide mentioning as his last words as, " I can't take this pressure anymore!! ".

I had a childhood friend during my college days, who was deeply, madly and obsessively in love with a girl from his school days. Well, it was a one sided love only from his side, as the girl never responded to his feelings. He still kept on pursuing her. In fact, he started learning all the things she liked, like playing guitar. And this rejection actually made him cut his hand often with a knife but was never successful in it despite many attempts.

And now we read about the famous actor, close to our hearts, Sushant Singh Rajput gave up and committed suicide. It's said that he had severe depression for quite some time, many months.

Well, what else, I am sure, we will find enough real stories of people who decided to end their lives one day or one moment and left this world. And it is really very sad to see this actually. In fact, I had also lost someone, a very close friend of mine in an accident and I can very well, feel and understand the pain of losing someone close. I had gone mad and could not stop my tears which used to flow every now and then. And I had nobody to talk to OR share my pain with, who can just listen to me and understand. I was looking for him everywhere every time. Then I realized his soul is always with me. I have to go on and fulfill all the dreams he had seen for me. That moment, I realized that my life is not only mine, in fact, I owe it to many people. So how can I give up? I can't. May be life is testing me and I will pass through this. This shall pass like other moments. If you lose someone close to you suddenly in the friction of seconds or a moment, you just can't accept it, you feel guilty and you feel there was so much to say and the pain is much more for the closeness of a person who has suddenly ended his life

I have really one question to ask, "Is suicide the only solution? What if we had no option as suicide and we were just bound to live, the way we can't control our birth? "Whatever is the reason, whether, it's a heartbreak or a peer pressure, competition or losing someone close, one thing is common that there is a lot of grief, pain, unhappiness which is unbearable and gets difficult to handle and you feel that ending your life can and will give you peace. Is that so really? When we have happy moments, we want to hold on to them but when we have tough moments, we can't hold on to them. Why? Because that's how life and our mind works. And you know what, nothing is permanent as everything changes every moment. Change is the only thing which is constant. There is a saying -"Tough times don't last but tough people do! ". Whenever I feel low, I always say to myself, " This shall pass too!! Have faith and have patience!! Keep going on!! ".I want to tell you a story here by Buddha.

Buddha was walking and walking and walking continuously to a place, one day, with his disciple when he got tired and asked his disciple to sit and rest for a while. He also asked him to bring water for him from a nearby pond as he was very thirsty. So, the disciple went to bring water for him. But when he reached the pond, he realized that the water is very dirty with mud all around. He said to himself, " How can I take this water for Buddha? I can't. "He went back empty handed without water and told Buddha, " Sorry!! The water is very muddy, so I could not bring it for you ". Then Buddha said, " Don't worry, go to the same place after sometime and you will find clean water and then you can bring it for me. Rest till then. ". The disciple said, "OK, as you say. " But he didn't understand what Buddha meant by this yet he decided to trust him and follow his guidance. Sometime later, he went to the same pond again and to his surprise, he saw the clean water there. He kept on wondering on the way back while carrying the water for Buddha. When he reached Buddha, he asked him, " How is this possible? " Buddha said, " This is what happens when you wait for a while and let things flow on its own. We waited for a while and then the mud had settled down on its own leaving the clean water up running. Same happens in our life with our mind also. When we allow it to rest for a while, things flow and settle on their own. We just need to let it flow and not hold onto it or give up then. Just sit and rest for a while and then walk again." Great learning for me when I read this story by him.

Many times, just one moment makes us weak and so weak that in the heat of that moment, we decide to give up. I am sure that such a moment must have come in all of our lives at some point of time which must have made us very weak at that point of time, when your mind says , "This is it, I can't see anything beyond now, all blank , my life is worthless!! I am worthless !!" And it's not a nice feeling at all. Such a moment came in my life also, when all my dreams were shattered and I was all alone going mad and blank. I was broken into pieces and shattered. " The Hard Rock me "was shattered and could not see any way out. But I decided, not to quit and let that moment pass. I said to myself, Like other moments, this shall also pass!! Talk to someone at that weak moment of yours which is making you mad and restless. If you don't have anyone, write your thoughts in a diary , listen to nice music or do something what you like, try to divert your mind and see the moment passes just like that. It's the accumulation of our negative thoughts about us which makes us feel like this - unworthy or unhappy. If we just allow that moment to pass, we can see, life is still worthy!! You are worthy!! How can you not be worthy when you are a part of this Universe, made by Universe. And Universe has made all of us unique , we just need to realize and discover this in ourselves. If you start looking at yourself from your eyes and not from someone else 's eyes. Trust that Universe has a unique purpose for each one of us that's why we are living and alive. We face the adversities for a reason. Everything has a reason, if you can trust the process. It was not easy for me too but I tried to trust the Universe, go with the flow and get up again, every time I was shattered because I knew this is not the end, may be a roadblock or a tunnel and I will see the light ahead. And see, that's what happened with me, such moments were a turning point of my life. We all know that good has to go through a very tough process of melting and pain, then only it finally becomes the precious gold we see as final product which is nice, beautiful and strong too. These adversities make us strong. Now, when I look back, I realize, I had to go through all this pain to become who I am today. That process, that journey is important. We have to trust the process and trust the universe. He has a plan for all of us. He has sent all of us with a purpose

No broken relationship, no unfulfilled dram, no loss, nothing is larger than life itself. I believe there is a lack of love for oneself which actually makes one unhappy and you feel worthless. Life is a very precious gift given by Universe and in fact, human life is the most precious and rare gift given to us as per "Bhagwad Gita ", the mythological book we all know. We should value it. You never know when the next moment brings positive for you, so you need to have that faith in yourself and Universe and keep going. That's what life is all about!! Keep going, come what may!! . Well, as very rightly said, the journey is important and not the destination!!

I have also gone through so many weak moments in my life, where I felt, " I can't see anything beyond this, Where to go? Here is the dead end!! " But then, immediately, somehow, my inner voice told me that what I have, many don't, so I should value what I have before this is also lost. So, I always look at people who are more unfortunate than me, which inspires me to do something for them. Yes, I can make something worthy of me and my life. All of us can. Trust yourself. Love yourself. Value yourself!! And you never know what you see as dead end might just be a roadblock and it is beginning of something new!! It has happened few times in my life, when I felt the moment is a dead-end and it became a turning point of my life and beginning of something very new.

There is a saying, " What you have, you might feel it is not enough, but try to look at it from someone else ' s eyes, you will realize that it's enough!! " I have myself got up so many times in my life after every loss and every downfall because I knew in my heart, somewhere suicide is never a solution to any problem. I am sure, all of us have heard these stories in our childhood but sometimes it is good to read them again and again

Naadaan hotel hain woh jo yun zindgi se haar maan lete hain !!

Ek cheenti se seekho zindgi jeene ka jasba, itni mushkiloen ke baad bhi woh koshish karna nahi chodti, haar nahi maanti kyuki koshish karne waaloen ki Kabhi haar nahi hoti!!

Everyday sun rises and gives us light without fail, Trees always give us shadow without getting tired teaching us to never give up!! There is always light after the darkness!!

Birds sing daily for us selflessly, happily. Trees give us shadow when we are tired from the heat of sun. If you see around, everything about nature is so beautiful and happy. Why? Because they just keep flowing selflessly. They are so happy and we get happy with nature. We smile too!!

Love yourself!! Know yourself!! Accept yourself!! You are unique in your own ways, the way fingers of our hands are different and unique in their own ways and each has its own purpose!!

Your dreams, your happiness, everything is from You!! If you are there, everything is there!! And you are worthy of everything!! You are worthy within yourself!! There is a saying, " Life has a different exam for everyone, You can't copy it!! ""

Never Give Up!!

Lots of Love and my best wishes!!

Stay safe, stay blessed and stay happy always!!

Keep Smiling!!