One Unique Friendship

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One Unique Friendship, never seen or heard before!! You don't see such friendship these days -15 years long - Small tribute to my best friend, my guide, my Angel !!

Well!! There are some dates in life that can never be forgotten and give tears in our eyes, no matter what and how much you control!! And takes life back again for sometime with some memorable moments coming in your heart. There is this one date that comes in my life every year and gives some smiles and some sadness in my eyes. That date is 25th April, death anniversary day of my Bestie cum Brother. On this day, 2 years ago, ohhhh God, I had lost my bestie who was like brother for me, in an accident, no no I haven't lost him because he is still with me and will always be with me.

What a strange thing - which relation will remain with us for how long - lifetime or only for sometime and will go how far ,no one knows, I wish, we could know this. I really wish we could know this!!!

A very strong soul connection!!! The only person, only friend in my life who walked with me consistently throughout, for 15 years since the day we met. And the only friend and in fact, the only person in my life, who understood me and my dreams so well without any judgements. And you know how we met for the first time as if it was just destined and I didn't know this that time. We had met ,first time, at a bus stop when I was coming back from my office that evening in CP and there was a problem with chartered buses that day and we had to go to the same destination. I went to him and checked about the problem with buses. So, then he said that he also has to go to the same place and if I don't mind, we can share an auto. I felt comfortable with him as he was elder title and looked like a very nice gentleman who can be trusted. So we shared auto and then we had some conversations. As I had marketing profile and he was from advertising world, we connected quite well. He made me his friend very quickly, but I don't make friends so soon, neither earlier nor today. I take a long time to make friends. It's not like that I don't meet people or people don't do friendship with me. I believe that friends are not made they just become when it has to happen it just happens. It's destined. Often many people accept me as their friend very quickly but I don't accept them quickly, that's probably because I never get anyone to understand me, who can understand my dreams as me and my dreams are not as much different, I never had such a friend who could accept me the way I am, without judging me, who could understand me and my dreams. I was a best friend of myself and how can I forget him, My Gannu Bhaiya and for all of us Lord Ganesha but for me- my Gannu bhaiya!!!

And this first friend of mine who, when met me, suddenly started talking about my dreams. He was kind- hearted and very innocent. He was very open minded, non judgmental, mature, patient and cool headed He believed more in my dreams than me. And he always used to push me and encourage me to follow my dreams, which I really liked. All these years, where I have been fighting alone for my dreams and here is someone who wants to help and believes in my dreams. Wow!!! Thank you so much Gannu Bhaiya for sending him in my life!!

I really wanted to become an artist, singer and actor since childhood and as soon as my eyes opened , I grew with this dream from childhood, but I also understood that I have to achieve my dreams and destination myself. Why was it difficult for me? Well, another long story and a long chapter of my life, some other time, I will share with you. For now, let's come back to the chapter of my bestie. So, this new friend of mine started introducing me to the people of advertising world and started doing my recordings.. Now what. then often we started to be seen together and people started doing gossiping about us.

Well, our talks were unlimited and never ending, always on and on. He was quite different from me. He was 9 years elder than me and slowly slowly everyone started feeling jealous from our strong friendship. Some of his talks really touched my heart. He was very selfless, helpful and simple person. I think he must have done PHD in humanity. Everyone considered him as stupid and always took him for granted which I did not like at all but still he did not give up on his selfless goodness and probably because of these few, such people, true friendship and love is still alive as an example, a precedent. Everyone was astonished after seeing our strong friendship.

There is a line from a famous song I love " Zinda hai hum hi se naam pyaar ka, ki marke bhi kisi ko yaad ayenge, kisi ke aansuon mein myskarayenge, jeena isika naam hai!! "

The first person in my life who was selflessly committed to my dreams. He used to encourage me always. He trusted more in me and my dreams than I could. He always maintained friendship from his side with strong and selfless commitment and confidence. He knew and understood me very well like my heart used to be just a mirror for him and I was an an open book to him. I used to feel so safe, so natural and so comfortable with him, that I have never ever felt with anyone in my life ever. Not even girl-boy barrier, so pure!!!

We never had fights between us and even if sometimes, we did have some small fights and I used to go silent, but he didn't allow me to stay silent for more than 24 hours. He knew how to break my silence and how to bring smile back on my face. He always used to say this that he can never see me sad and will always be with me. Even if he has to go up in the universe, yet his soul will always be with me not gonna leave me and he said right he was with me till his last moment and his soul is still with me.

And then a very long distance came between us, people among us often felt that such friendship can not happen. A boy and a girl can never be friends. They felt that he might have some special feelings in his heart for me. I ask you all, Do you also feel that a boy and a girl can never be friends? I always treated him as my elder brother, a God gifted person who always showed me the right path, a mentor, a friend. His family also thought the same and then, I thought its better to stay away from him. Our friendship began to be questioned and it was not at all acceptable to me and I stopped talking to him. I never answered any of his call or message. He always hold his side of friendship with self less commitment and never left me On my birthday or any special occasions he used to come to my house to find me and I never used to come in front of him. And this silence lasted till 3 years , when one day my father explained to me that good and true people and true friends are very hard to find, never do this with them. I told him everything and also the reason but on his advise, I started talking to my best friend again.

He never tried to change me but I changed a lot with him. Just like he changed my whole life. On his bye bye from this world, he taught me the right way to live. The girl who was always afraid of love, was taught to share love. He taught me to share love with an open heart. In my life, my students, who inadvertently held me in these tears and made me laugh and walk again. I did not know that I will be so changed with him that I will start changing lives of many other people. He always used to make fun of me, by saying , ""you give so much lecture yaar.!!! Become a mentor!! "" I miss that a lot. Every moment, everywhere for so many months, I saw him like chasing me wherever I used to go. I could not believe that he was gone. Its like my eyes are finding him and if by chance I meet him somewhere i will start fighting with him. Just one question in tears ? Where have you gone brother?? please come back how many things remained incomplete. I always thought that I will tell him tomorrow but it didn't come. Our talks were limitless and he used to listen to me for hours without any complaint and without saying anything. Now with whom I will share everything now I have no one who will listen to me like you and once again I became alone. Just smiling with students and after that again alone. He was my mentor, my guide, my friend, my brother in short he was everything to me and even I don't know what he was to me may be an angel. But whatever it was it was a soul connection. Like I used to handle everything emotionally, mentally and solve everyone's problem strong hard rock Shalini in front of everyone , he was the only one who understood me and handled me like no one else. I used to forget all my problems when I was with him and so as he.

It felt like I had become orphaned in just one moment. That day, I realized the feeling if someone doesn't have anyone close, how bad it feels. But I have always been walking alone since childhood. I have been handling myself falling and getting up on my own, then why it was so difficult to walk alone today? I guess some habits are such. I had just forgotten to walk alone. I was such a changed person with him. He had become such a part of my soul and my life.

After coming back from my sessions, I used to sit at metro station for hours all alone like mad. It used to be a common point for us and this was one place we used to cross our paths and used to meet often. I used to sit there and hopelessly wait for him for hours until someone used to come and say to me, " Why are you sitting here like this? Who are you waiting for? It's been a long time. Pls go to your home!!"My eyes were always looking for him. Ohhhh God, pls help me!! And then, I used to go home but again in tears. I used to ask my Gannu Bhaiya, "" What do I do? Pls help me!! I see him everywhere!! I don't want to live in Delhi anymore!! Pls help me, pls pls help me!! And then, I heard a voice. I looked here and there... Where is this voice coming from. I was zapped I was going mad alone like this and nobody to talk to. I wanted to cry and lay my head on someone 's shoulder and pour my heart out but unfortunately, that only shoulder was gone. And, I had to be my own weeping shoulder like always. But this pain was quite different than the pain I had felt otherwise in my life.

And I kept listening to one song that time, " Chitti na koi sandesh, jaane woh kaunsa desh jahan tum chale gaye., Is dil pe lagake thes ........ Kaise maan le hum yeh ki haan tum chale gaye........ ""

I kept on asking Gannu Bhaiya, " Whenever anyone comes close to me, you always take him away. You took my grandfather also away from me when I was a child and he was the only one pampering me. ""

. Thinking all this, I don't know when I slept and I saw him in my dreams. He said, ?You know I can never see you sad. Do You want me to be happy and at peace? Then you will have to walk and smile again. The dreams, I dreamt for you, you have to fulfill them. I am always with you? and just after that I made a promise to myself and got up and started walking again It was difficult to walk alone like this as I was so used to him. He still gives me encouragement by staying together like this forever. Some soul connections are very strong!!! Now, I still see him and feel him around but with me, still walking with me, holding my hand like a child

That one moment changed me so much that I, who was never able to express myself, kept everything in my heart , began to tell everything regardless of tomorrow. Who knows if it is tomorrow, whatever it is. This is the only moment and that's the truth. Seize it. He taught me life is long but also very short. We should live it to the fullest.

And yes, there are some special days when he used to be with me like my birthday, he used to never forget my birthday and I also, We still celebrate together. Even today on his birthday, I cut the cake and while waiting for his cake on my birthday, I close my eyes and remember for a few moments and cry a little, then I again hear his voice in my ears, saying ? I can never see tears in your eyes. You look very sweet when you smile.? That feeling does not end with someone going away. People who are very close to your heart, even after being away are special; he will always remain in my heart, in my memories.

Even today I see him in a song of friendship??.,

in someone's friendship or at some place. Everyday I promise to myself that I have to fulfil all the unfulfilled dreams, he saw for me and I know , he is always with me and will always be with me.

There was someone who knew me more than I knew myself, who used to see and understand my pain behind my smile. Someone who could see my tearsi even in rain also. He is now lost somewhere as one of the stars in the sky and will be with me like a blessing always!!

If he would have been with me in this lockdown, my lockdown would have been very different.

And If I sit to write about him. pages will be over but memories and our talks about him will never be over. And I am still getting some tears and some smile on my face writing this story and sharing it with you. It took me a long time to realize his friendship and his importance in my life. I never knew that I will miss him so much.

Some things, I have really learnt from him and life apart from many more things -

1. Many times in our lives, someone is really around you, but we take him for granted and we don't value him her as much and after he or she is gone, we realize that that person was the only one who was so precious in your life. I also realized it very late as he was always around me, in my initial years of friendship with him, I used to get annoyed with his constant calls and care but he was always the same for me since the beginning till his last breath. As a person, I was not used to such care and closeness as I am a deep introvert ,all by my own always. But he never changed his love and care and commitment for .me . It was so selfless. We should value all we have.

2. One moment has the power to change you and your life. I was never an expressive person, being an introvert. I became expressive after that moment. That moment changed me a lot and I realized that we should always express our gratitude and feelings for our close ones in the moment because you never know, what the next moment holds or brings for you.

3. Selfless love with open and whole heart and commitment come what may, is the only purest form of friendship and love. He walked with me all throughout selflessly come what may and is still Walking with me.

4. Going with the flow in life is sometimes good, that's another thing I learnt from him and life. Journey of my mentoring and sessions started just like that when he told me to take it up. " He said, " you love kids and theatre, and also you are an inborn problem solver and guide." Starting with small kids and the elder ones, me and my life changed so much. These sessions kept me alive and kept me going after he left me alone in this world. I was in my session, when the news of his death reached me in my message box. I had to still smile and give the session with a heavy heart.

5. His entry and role in my life was a great turning point for me. I, as a person, used to follow the rules book always and always very planned. I learnt to open my mind and sometimes take the day as it comes. Take life as it comes, trust life, trust Universe and go on. I became open to people, to things, and largely, I became open to love and life.

6. I used to hold old things, old hurts, which are not good , so tightly. I learnt to liberate myself and let go. It felt much lighter, nice and beautiful!!

7. I learnt to forgive myself and others. Not judge others and accept them the way they are.

Well, again, the list of learnings is long enough but will end it here for now .

8. He was a very simple person with a selfless golden heart. A gem of a person and a great human being. He might not have been very good at many other things but in terms of humanity, he created an example. I grew and became a much better person just being with him.

Whatever is meant for you, will be with you and come to you, come what may, at the right time. And what is not meant for you, will leave you, no matter how tight you hold on to it.

Some relationships change with time and life. Some relationships change you and your life. You need to choose which one is meant for you , valued for and worthy enough !!

If you also have any such friendship in your life, pls share your story or your moments and some of your memories with me, I will be happy to read

This story is a small tribute to my Angel Bestie Bhai!! My Guide!!

Lots of love and my best wishes!!!

Keep smiling!!

Stay safe, stay blessed and stay happy always!!

Shalini